Career and homemaking-equipped to handle it!
The irresponsible teenage kids have become a caricature of modern adolescence. These young people are at the age when they will soon launch into the real world, but have they been equipped to handle it?
During the early years of parenting, we all have a mistaken notion that childhood is a time of endless fun, and that parents needs to be like cruise directors for their kids. We have to realize that childhood is a training ground for the real world.
Chances are excellent that your son or daughter will someday land a job, get married and encounter various conflicts and disagreements.
> Can your child handle that tension?
He will be better equipped if he has had to deal with and resolve conflict in his formative years. Include your children in everyday household and vehicle upkeep, preparing them to be more self-reliant. Family life is where healthy habits are formed. Exercise as a family, and work together to practice good nutrition. And does your daily communication support a healthy view of the body? Your words condition children in their perception of themselves — positive or negative.
You may also need to remind your kids of the basics of health and hygiene. Don't let your kids get lazy with their hygiene.
Do they clip their nails?
Are they using soap in the shower?
Are they changing their undergarments at regular intervals?
We are functioning in a society that pretends women don't grow up to become mothers. We are so driven by the focus that women can do the same and be the same as men, that we completely fail to provide them with education or understanding of what may be ahead for them, as future homemakers and those who raise children. How can we ensure equality for all women, when we place so little value on the role of the mother?
Mums need the sisterhood more than ever. We need feminism. But we need it from the beginning. We need to stop acting as though when we provide women with these traditional skills, we are taking away their power.
The reality of our society cannot be ignored.
We need to be validating the role of the mother and highlighting the work that goes into it, instead of perpetuating the myth that the work that takes place in the home is 'less than' -- less meaningful, less valuable, less important.
We need to teach young people the skills they need to succeed -- not only in the workforce, but in the home as well. We need to teach them how to care for children, how to cook, how to clean and organize, how to manage household budgets and administration.
For many women, their journey will naturally lead them to a period of stay in the home, caring for children. Whether that time is only a few months, or for several decades, they need to be prepared. They need to be given the skills they need to succeed and they need to be taught that their work is valuable.
Young men need to understand the value of this role as well. They need to be shown that a homemaker -- male or female -- provides an essential contribution to society. They, too, need to be given the option to become the primary caretaker. We need to ensure that we lift up the value and recognition of this role to the point where it is just as viable an ambition as any other career prospect.
Are we truly helping women get ahead, or are we instead setting them up for a future of self-doubt and a sense of failure? If a generation that values the role of women in the home is thought to be less egalitarian than the generation before it, then perhaps that says more about how our society truly views women and what we feel constitutes true equality than it does about Millennial themselves.
Someday you want your daughters to grow up and have the option of being a fire-woman, a writer, a gold medalist in sports, a police, an administrator, a chef, the president ... or whatever else her little heart desires. While we all want well-behaved children, don't forget to teach your daughter that it's okay to debate, disagree and negotiate--respectfully, of course--and especially with her peers. Encourage her to speak up in class, from preschool to college, and state her opinion, and then be ready and willing to defend it.
Good parents aren't perfect. And that's okay. There's no formula to follow, but there are ways you can grow every day. We want you to be equipped as a parent to develop the skills needed to upbringing the next generation of healthy, mature, and responsible children.
Is this a passage we have become ashamed of?
Clearly this is something women are to pass down from generation to generation. Will we do it?
Where is our encouragement?
Have we just accepted the status quo of young women giving their younger years to college or working hours?
Or are we instilling in them the desire for work at home, doing what is good in the home, being a help to their families?
Yes men and women, we are of equal value and importance. Salvation is available to both men and women, boys and girls, but men and women are very different and have been given different roles by our Creator. We must never fall prey to the false idea that this is not important work.
We started to push women towards careers and getting them ready for careers. Homemaking is never going to quite go away; It’s just that we’re doing it in a different way. We need to accept and agree that even with a successful career, a stable home life is equally as important. We want them to be successful on both levels. It is we, Parents who needs to make sure that our children are really prepared for the real world problems.
It’s up to the Moms to initiate a heart-to-heart about matters of the heart. Although it can be a difficult subject to broach, your greatest gift to your daughter might just be the knowledge to face tough times and come out stronger.
Every Mother Should Teach Her Daughter
You are enough. ... Believing you are enough means remembering that nothing in you needs to be changed to be loved.
Learn to cook, clean and be organized for yourself, not for someone else.
You can't get respect unless you give it first. ... When you care for your body — feed it well, rest it well, treat it well — then you will more naturally be drawn to someone who will do the same.
You are stronger than what you think.
Don't lose yourself in a relationship. ...
In anything you do, remember that there is a reaction for every action.
Set goals for yourself and have a plan but know that not everything goes as planned. Always have a plan B and C.
Know what's going on in the world and in your local community. Keep up with current events.
Be kind, compassionate and loyal.
Know your self-worth and don't let anyone else bring it down or make you feel less worthy.
Have faith. Be courteous and always practice good manners. You are going to lose sometimes but you will only fail if you don't stand back up and try again. Be independent. Learn to be patient.
We all continue to learn lessons along the road of life. There is usually not a road sign along each side that tells us where to go. As parents we want the future generations to have an easier time and to learn from our mistakes. Sometimes, they need to learn from their own but it is okay to provide some guidance for our kids every now and then so that at least they stay on course.