A timely message for parents and educators at the beginning of a new school year: “there is a real need to draw a distinction between behavior that is rude, behavior that is mean and behavior that is characteristic of bullying.”
Distinguishing between them allows teachers, school administrators; police, parents and kids all know what to pay attention to and when to intervene.
Being Rude - is inadvertently saying or doing something that hurts someone else. Incidents of rudeness are usually spontaneous, unplanned inconsideration, based on thoughtlessness, poor manners or narcissism, but not meant to actually hurt someone.
Being Mean - involves purposefully saying or doing something to hurt someone once (or maybe twice). Mean behavior very much aims to hurt or depreciate someone….Very often, mean behavior in kids is motivated by angry feelings and/or the misguided goal of propping themselves up in comparison to the person they are putting down.
Bullying is intentionally aggressive behavior, repeated over time, which involves an imbalance of power. Bullying includes physical and verbal aggression, relational aggression (like social exclusion, hazing, or rumor spreading), and cyber bullying. The key aspect to all of them is the ongoing nature of the behavior, which leaves the victims feeling powerless and fearful.
Let's focus on the real, true incidents of bullying that are life or death situations, as you say, while also teaching resilience and strong coping skills for our children so they are equipped for the adult world. Too many attempts these days to water down a truly terrifying concept that needs our undivided attention.
I hope that schools with bullying policies pay attention to this distinction, as how it is handled and the severity of punishment can be damaging if enacted improperly on either side of an incident. I believe this is so important to not only our children, but the adults in their lives as well.
We hear of children being removed from parents because they do not accept the child wanting to be brainwashed by a system that is designed to destroy our society.
We all need to wake up and raise our Voices. Stop saying I'll let someone else deal with it, because it's too late when you have lost your child to the system.
No one should have to suffer not even the small children they cannot defend themselves it is so sad unfortunately this happens every day every minute every second that we're in this world someone is hurting a child all we can do is pray and say Oh Lord! we need your mercy on these little children.
Abuse can come in many colors, and many ways.. it's abuse to children if Daddy is beating Mommy...or he or both Do drugs or extreme drinking in Front of the child... or one or the other doesn't get their child to school on time Then the child is punished and teased.. Or
they may go to school unclean or The hair or cloths are unkept...or they are told that they cannot do well in life just because they cannot concentrate.
Parents need to intervene in each and every matter related to their child. They need to be a patient listener, they need to understand what their child is speaking to them, It is their utmost and prime duty that whatever happens they are there for them.
It is the right of a child to be treated as a complete human being…
To me these are in addition to the more heinous crimes that happens to the Children...
When as a parent and the guardian we make sure that our child is heard by us, I believe that a child will talk about anything and everything that is happening with it in the outside world.